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Independence…the Good, the Bad and the Ugly

Independence.  Such a great word.  We cherish our independence as a country and as citizens to have the freedom to do as we like.

The growing independence of a 2 1/2 year old is not as cherishable sometimes.  There can be good moments of independence, such as wanting to wash herself at bathtime.  Cute, right?  Sure.  Another cute one, wanting to close the gate upon entering the den…cute?  Sure.  Helping to put her toys away…cute.  Even pulling her pants down and going to the bathroom by herself, now without her Dora potty seat, is really cute. 

What’s not so cute is the tantrums and fits that come from Mommy still having to do some things for her.  I can’t leave the house with my keys.  Cheyenne has to have the keys and walks out to the car and unlocks the door and opens it by herself.  Sure, it’s a little slower, but really, I need to pick my battles and that doesn’t hurt anyone, so why not?  Well, when we are in a hurry and already late to a playdate, that’s why not.  But God forbid I take the keys from her in an attempt to move things along and get us there a few minutes faster.  Not to mention, she doesn’t like being put in the car anymore.  She wants to climb into the car and even into her carseat now…all by herself. 

Fixing her meals is another on-again-off-again battle.  Sometimes she is cool with letting me fix her meals, but if the microwave is involved, then she has to push the buttons and start the microwave, and if I don’t let her…there is a total meltdown in the middle of the kitchen floor.  She will stand in the open door of the refrigerator or freezer looking around and tapping her finger to her mouth as if she is deep in thought about what she wants to eat.  Let me tell you, on a cold winter morning, the fridge and freezer being open is not the best feeling.  But again, I better not make an attempt to close it or another fit ensues on the kitchen floor. 

Let me tell you, this is one strong willed little girl.  She can be cute as a button and sweet as can be one minute, like this morning, when her pajama pants were inside out after going potty and she asked me for help and when I fixed them, she said “Thank you.  You so nice Mommy!”  Then the next minute can be a total meltdown or screaming fit because I didn’t let her close the gate into the den.  I have started implementing time out and when she starts “growling” as I call it or screaming because she doesn’t get her way, she goes and sits in time out to learn that this behavior is not acceptable.  I tell you, I’m going to have my hands full with this one….

The independence of a 2 1/2 year old…so sweet, yet so stressful. 

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Winter and Christmas is near….

I love this time of year!  Well, other than the cold weather, that is.  I love Christmas time, decorating, togetherness with my family, and the occasional snow that we have had the last couple of years. 

We have had some fun playdates lately and yesterday, we had a playdate at Vanessa and Penny’s house.  The kids were Tiny Hot Chocolate Chefs and it was so fun.  Cheyenne was the perfect age for this as she could participate and make her hot chocolate mix with very little help from Mommy. 

This is the lovely set up for our hot chocolate mix assembly.  We had the cocoa, gumdrops, chocolate and butterscotch chips, marshmallows and cinnamon. 

Our lovely hostesses, Vanessa and Penny!!  We love going to Penny’s house!!

Cheyenne had a blast making her hot chocolate mix…adding each of the ingredients (and eating a few along the way)!!

Cheyenne’s beautiful bag of hot chocolate mix.  We’ll definitely be making this up soon considering it’s almost noon and not even up to freezing yet.  Yep, 11:00 in the morning, and it’s still only 30 degrees.  This is why I don’t like winter.  I hate cold weather, but I guess there are some perks…hot cocoa, coffee is better in the winter, snuggling to stay warm,fires in the fireplace and of course cold weather means it’s time for Santa to come visiting. 

After the hot chocolate chefs had completed their masterpieces, it was time to play and as usual, that ends with all the kids jumping on the couch and screaming and laughing.  These girls love spending time together! 

It was such a fun time and we are definitely going to have to make our cocoa soon, because Cheyenne won’t let me forget about it.  She is constantly asking if we can make our cocoa.  I’m thinking we’ll make it tonight, after dinner maybe with a fire going in the fireplace.  Some of my favorite winter moments.  🙂

Then, that evening, it was time for or Christmas edition of our Organizer meeting for our playgroup.  We had a great time at Villa-O and those that had them wore their ugly Christmas sweaters.  I don’t have any Christmas sweaters, so I wore a red sweater and put a gift tag on it that said “Ugly Christmas Sweater”.  I was going to put a couple of bows on my shirt too, but I didn’t have any unsued bows and the ones I had wouldn’t stay on.  

We also did a gift exchange and that was fun as well!  As always, I had a great time with the organizers of this group. 

What a great group of organizing Mommas!!

 I am so blessed to be part of such a great group of mommas and to have made some awesome friendships that will hopefully last a lifetime!  The kiddos in this group are so great and Cheyenne has a great group of kids to grow up with!!